I read last night that an old friend, Chris Ceraolo, passed away over the weekend.
I knew Chris via my friend Mike Gavin back when I first started working at Universal in 1994. We had met once or twice before that at a random Star Trek convention and she was one of the fun geeks… full of life and not afraid to show it with her passion and creativity. The last time I saw Chris was at an FX Show wrap party about three or four years ago. She was a wonderful soul and I’ll miss her. I’m glad, though, to hear she’s no longer in pain (from battling cancer.)
Coping with death is something we all will do sooner or later. I’ve seen it a number of times in my life and I know I’ll see it more as the years pass. In Chris’s passing, though, I’ve had my first exposure the a current trend in social networking: posting good-byes to someone who has passed away on his/her profile on Facebook. I’m just not sure how I feel about that. Things I understand doing when someone dies:
- Attending a funeral.
- Calling friends to talk and share memories.
- Doing something in memory of the person (charitable donation in time or money.)
- Visiting someplace you remember going with the person.
- Praying (if you’re religious.)
These all seem “normal” to me.
Maybe I’m just jaded by a saturation of online interaction. For as much as I’m into it all (my blog, Twitter, Facebook, etc.) – I maintain my life and interaction with people very actively offline (aka “the real world.”)
I’m not judging… or maybe I am. Either way, posting on someone’s wall on Facebook to “say goodbye” once they’ve passed away just seems odd to me. If it works for some people, though, then so be it. I suppose it’s better(?) than posting the person’s name with their years on Earth à la tombstone format on the back window of a car.
Then again: I’m writing about it on a blog. So there you have it.